Who Can Be My Mentor?

Torah instructs: “Provide yourself with a mentor.” But how does one know who to choose as a spiritual guide?

The Talmud Tractate Berachos teaches: “A mentor must be like an angel of G-d”. In his code of Jewish law, Maimonides offers a clue to the conduct of an angel: He describes the future world, “when there will be no envy, rivalry, war or hatred,” and concludes: “At that time the righteous will resemble the Ministering Angels.” So to resemble an angel of G-d means, to be free of the corruptions of one’s body.

The Talmud Tractate Yevamos also offers insight: “There are three identifying signs of a Jew: He is modest, compassionate, and giving.” Observe whether the potential mentor has these selfless qualities. If he does, one may confidently turn to him for spiritual direction and life-guidance.